Nanti Apa Orang Kata?

It is November 2010! The year has come to the end and it makes me feel super duper extra nervous as within 12 months from now, I will be getting MARRIED! A lot of things to be done but luckily I have my Darling Fiance who is very much understanding on my situation at the moment (studying + sitting for exams + unemployed). So, he suggests that we should plan everything early and get it done one by one. By mid of 2011, in which I will be on my final semester of study, I shall not be worry too much on the wedding preparation as everything has been done earlier and my concern at that particular moment will be the submission of my Master's Project. It sounds easy, but now as I start thinking, this self-monologue used to pop out in my mind, "Nanti Apa Orang Kata?". 

1.   Nak buat majlis dekat mana? Hotel? Dewan? Atau rumah sahaja?

Ini perkara yang paling pening nak buat keputusan. Kalau pilih hotel, memang nampak menarik, tetapi memerlukan budget yang besar. So, ia hanya sekadar angan-angan belaka. Kalau pilih dewan, memang menarik juga, tetapi masih ada protokol yang harus diikut. Silap-silap kena buat rehearsal sebelum majlis. Kalau buat dekat rumah, kita setuju sebab itu rumahku syurgaku! Tetapi kalau jemputan ramai, takut mereka tak selesa waiting for turns to eat. Coz lately I had attended some weddings and there were twice when my family and I had to wait for about half an hour just to get a place to sit and eat. After 30 mins, we only managed to find 2 vacant chairs for our parents. Jadi, kami adik-beradik memang tak dapat makan, nak duduk pun tak ada tempat walaupun rumah tersebut ada lebih kurang 16 khemah! Fuuhhhh... Ini maksudnya tiada rezeki untuk kami pada hari tersebut. Sekarang sangat takut betul bila fikir apa orang akan kata tentang majlis kita pula...

Hotel Pan Pacific... Yeahh, dream on, Nana!

2.   Tidak mahu hantaran yang macam-macam dan berdulang-dulang...

Isu dulang-dulang memang kadang-kadang serabut fikir. Based on what I knew, pihak pengantin perempuan perlu hantar LEBIH dulang kepada pihak lelaki (mengikut adat orang Melayu). If pihak lelaki beri 3 dulang, pihak perempuan perlu balas 5 dulang. Then, when it comes to tepak sirih or sirih junjung, tiba-tiba memang sendiri rasa tak perlu, bukan ada yang nak makan pun. Tapi, boleh atau tak kalau cakap macam itu depan orang-orang tua especially nenek tercinta? Nanti dikatakan tidak menghormati adat pula. Takut orang kata apa-apa. So, I need to reconsider the things to be given. Ada tak orang zaman kini yang kahwin tak payah ada dulang-dulang? Hmmm, if tak ada, agak-agak ada tak orang kata apa-apa?

Kalau boleh recycle hantaran masa tunang bagus juga.. 

3.   Bunga telur sahaja.

I totally agree with this part! Because I personally view bunga telur as a symbolic item in Malays' wedding ceremony. Even though nowadays we have many other things to be given as door gifts, but for my wedding, I want to have bunga telur. Itu sahaja. Rasa-rasa ada tak orang kata apa-apa?

Well, at this very moment nothing much that I can think of my wedding preparation. Only these 3 items had came across my thought, so I wrote them down in today's entry so that I will not let it forgotten later on. If I were to think of what people will say, nothing can be done actually. So, I have to face the fact that I can not please everyone. Asalkan majlis itu tidak melanggar tuntutan Agama, it will be fine. The most important thing that I want is all my family members especially Ayah, Ibu, Kak Ili, Wanie & Hakam are happy, happy and happy on the day to see me getting married with a guy who I truly love. That is all.

Tema perkahwinan: SIMPLE YET HAPPENING =)

Counting days to my BIG day!

The end. Thank you! =)

Marah. Benci. Dendam.

Mengapa sifat MARAH, BENCI & DENDAM dikategorikan dalam sifat-sifat yang negatif? Mengapa kita digalakkan untuk membuang sifat-sifat ini dalam diri kita? Teruk sangatkah kalau ada sifat macam ini?

Haaahh, memang TERUK! Muka pun tak sedap mata memandang... 

Bila tengah marah, macam-macam benda yang tak baik yang kita cakap. Bila sudah galak marah, mula pula timbul perasaan benci yang meluap-luap walaupun mungkin kadangkala perkara yang dimarahkan itu biasa-biasa sahaja, tetapi sebab mungkin kita ada simpan sifat dendam terhadap individu yang melakukan perkara tersebut, itu yang menyebabkan masalah kecil boleh jadi masalah besar! 

Well, it is undeniable that those feelings of anger, hatred and grudge are not great at all. But why is it so hard to avoid those feelings? As for me, I easily get angry if someone pissed me off by; menabur fitnah sewenang-wenangnya terhadap diri kita, mengata yang tidak benar tentang diri kita  *sama la macam fitnah*, berprasangka buruk tanpa usul periksa & menikam diri kita dari belakang. In my opinion, the simplest way to deal with these situations is by apologizing. Simply said but hardly done, right? So, here I want to share 4 SIMPLE steps of apologizing proposed by Shepherd (2010): 

1. Decide whether or not to apologize for something. 
2. Think of ways to apologize.
3. Choose the best time and place to apologize.
4. Make the apology.

*ATTENTION!* Sebelum nak minta maaf, kita kena buang jauh-jauh perasaan MARAH, BENCI & DENDAM. Kenapa? Sebab kalau kita still minta maaf juga dalam keadaan MARAH, BENCI & DENDAM, secara automatik kata-kata kemaafan kita sukar diterima oleh orang yang kita hendak mohon kemaafan dan sukar diluahkan oleh kita sendiri. Tak percaya? Cuba try test.

As humans, we can not get rid of those feelings coz we are not born perfect. We have flaws and weaknesses. But frankly said, we can change the negative feelings of anger, hatred and grudge by changing our actions in dealing with them. How? By APOLOGIZING...

Hmmm, this is a good reminder for me too! Millions of apologies to everyone whom I had mistreated all this while. I AM SORRY...

The end. Thank you! =)